I refuse to make New Year’s Resolutions. Not because I don’t believe in them, but because I think “Goals” is a more appropriate word. “Resolutions” implies more of a change…a “resolve” to do better, be better…it’s not very focused or specific. “Goal” is more specific. It tells us that we have a specific target in mind; something that we intend to strive for and reach.
Goals should be S.M.A.R.T. Goals:
Specific – Don’t just say “I’m going to live healthier this year.” Say, “I am going to live healthier by eating 100 grams of protein, exercising three times a week, and getting a massage twice a month.” (This is a massage blog — I get to say that!)
Measurable – In what way to you expect your goal to impact your life? How can it be measured? To say “I want to feel better” is too vague. How about, “I want to lower my blood pressure to 120/80.” Or, “I want to be able to jog 2 miles without stopping.” This is specific enough that you will know when you have arrived.
Attainable – You need to have a goal that can actually be reached in the time you’ve given yourself. You want to run a marathon? That’s a great goal, unless you’re 100 pounds overweight, you haven’t been off the sofa since the Nixon administration, and the marathon is in two months. How about setting a goal that you can reach in the next few months? Something that you can pat yourself on the back for in the near future to help you feel good about yourself and keep you on track toward the long term goal of the marathon?
Realistic – Tied to “Attainable,” realism is vital. We all have dreams of what we want to be, but sometimes it just isn’t realistic. Lose 20 pounds before your sister’s wedding next week? Not going to happen. At least, not in a healthy way. Keep it real!
Timely – Set a deadline. Being specific also means “I will do this by this date.”
A business coach talked at our last networking meeting about how important it is to write down your goals. He said that in a study of Harvard graduates, 84% had vague goals in their minds about the future, 13% had goals that they discussed with other people and talked about, and only3% wrote down their goals. Following up with these graduates years later, the 84% group made a moderate living, the 13% group made four times as much money as the first group, and the 3% group made 10 times as much.
This tells you the importance of writing down your goals and referring to them often. In Rhonda Byrn’s The Secret, she talks of creating a vision board. Do something physical that will help you manifest your goals.
Change your goals as you begin to focus on what you really want. You may start out wanting the body of a body-builder, but may later decide that the time and cost of accomplishing that goal is taking away from other things that are more important to you. That’s okay! You just learned something about yourself. Find a better goal and see how it fits.
My goal is to help people attain their goals of better health through massage. I will consult with a business coach for help in marketing my business, and receive training in two areas that will make me a better massage therapist (lymphatic drainage and aromatherapy).
My web page: www.MoonTideMassage.com